I’m back in a craving, angry funk and have been daily debating how much longer I can hold out. Yet somehow, every day I squeak past witching hour by the skin of my teeth and wake up grateful, but nervous.
Everyone says this is hard work, so my experience shouldn’t really come as a surprise. I don’t want to be a dry drunk which means I have to take this seriously and get through it if I want to arrive at that bigger, better life I crave.
I’m trying to latch on to this thought of how grateful future me will be for taking care of myself today. I’m looking at this in all aspects. I’ve been a nutritional nightmare for a month: future me will thank me for eating a damn salad today. I’ve been letting my laundry pile up: future me will thank me for just folding it and putting it away, right away.
And most importantly, future me will reach out to me today and hug me, and brush my hair back from my face and kiss my cheek. She will say, Thank you, dear one, for this struggle. Thank you for enduring such a severe and unrelenting discomfort. Thank you for somehow, by some will you don’t understand and never knew you had, continuing to say no.
She will recognize how I was totally blindsided by how hard it would be, for how long, and she will hold me and say, you had the power in you all along. It was uncomfortable peeling back those layers of self doubt, because you’ve never lived without them. But now you’re free and naked and can start clothing yourself in things you truly love: confidence, self-love, optimism.
So, while it remains hard, I am preemptively grateful that I’m crawling through, step by step. Everyone says it’s worth it. Future me knows it’s worth it. Today me just has to not drink today.
You are doing so amazing! It’s really really hard, but you know you can do it. That’s wonderful. Keep going. It really does get easier. 🤗
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Boy, you sure got that right!!! Love that perspective, you can do this😊. Sending my Friday Night sober light straight to you❤️🌟
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I’m going to give you one of my early is sober secrets – iHeartRadio KC & the Sunshine Band, living room, and dance! 💃 🕺 Get down, get down, get down tonight. And there you go…
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It is true, you know. Future you will look back at today you with the deepest love and compassion and thanks.
It’s not easy finding kindness towards ourselves. I feel like society encourages something much less positive.
But once we start it is so right.
Hold on to that self love. It makes the world a better place. Cry, eat, hide in the bathtub. Whatever takes away some of the edge. Just don’t drink.
You are doing amazing.
Anne
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Lovely post. You are doing so well. Be proud. It isn’t easy but nothing worth it ever is! Check out others’ posts from their earlier days and then posts about what they would tell their past selves! I find it really helps. We all take different routes but we all go through the same emotions, challenges and thought processes. I think that’s kind of reassuring in a way. Keep on going. You got this xxx
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This is such a lovely post and lovely way of looking at things. I’m going to use this too ♡♡
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