A sober friend recommended Annie Grace’s Live Alcohol Experiment to me and I am all signed up and ready to start tomorrow! I’ve read her 30 day experiment book and almost made it through but apparently this, with the online community aspect, is a different ball game.
I’m really excited!
One of the prework videos they have you watch talks about really fostering this excitement. It makes sense to me, the whole idea that where you’re looking is where you’ll go. If my focus is on it being a really great experience and chock full of learning, then it will become that.
Another prework video has you drink the way you normally would but observe what’s really happening in your brain during the whole process. I did this Friday night and some things stood out to me:
- there was definitely an easing of tension the moment I decided I was going to drink (versus happening when I had the first drink itself)
- I took my little guy to happy hour at a local restaurant (super tame spot, kid-friendly, don’t judge me!) and had a beer while sitting with him at a high top table. It was really fun! I was going to say that the beer added to it but I don’t think it was the beer itself, it was the environs and the one-on-one time with my guy and not having to cook or clean up. Any delicious beverage would have added to the experience
- the wine I bought to drink at home when he was asleep wasn’t great at first but you KNOW I still finished it. The experience of being tipsy was nice but also anxious – I felt like I had to keep it going or I would drop and that was uncomfortable. When that bottle was done I absolutely would have started another if I’d had one
So, it was good to experience these things mindfully before going into the experiment.
I don’t really have any social events, not major ones at least, that will threaten the safety of my secure little brand-new sober bubble. Honestly, that’s the least of my issues with drinking, generally. Most of the time I pick up a bottle for no other reason than I let the anxious addictive voice get the upper hand.
My understanding of early days sobriety is that generally it takes about ten days for the purely physical symptoms of detox to wind down. I have made it ten days at least 3-4 times in the last year then cave. I’d really like to know why that’s such a key marker for me?
I’d love to hear your memories of early day sobriety if you’re willing! What stood out? How long did it take for your emotions and physical self to even out? What were the hardest challenges to staying sober?